It started on that same stride for me. It was all about what the bible said and what I was taught that sex. It should be in the confines of marriage and that anything away from that was sexual immorality. Although, this was the truth it did not hamper me from struggling every day to walk the walk of purity and it always felt like a burden I had to carry alone. So many are the times I tried to ignore my emotions or to wrangle with my hormones but the more I tried the harder it all became. The society didn’t make it easier because most movies, songs and in social media one thing or another glorified the pleasure of sex and made it look like a good thing. Having to fight with the different perspectives of sex and trying to find what to believe lead me to seek for God’s guidance, my mission? To know what God says about sexual purity.
When we try and separate sexual purity from other desires of the world then we lose the whole perspective of why purity. When the bible says in James 4:4 that he that is a friend with the world is an enemy to God means that we should not live as the world does when we get born again. It also means that he that is a friend to the world cannot have a relationship with God. With this in mind then we ask the question what I must do to be right with God.
Romans12:1-2 says that; 1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
When you try and uphold this word as an obligation then you go back to living under the law where it was all about doing what God said. But when Christ came and we were restored to our position then there is a relationship that is formed. It becomes more about every day wanting to know more about Christ and trying to eliminate anything that would hinder or be a barrier to intimacy. Just like any relationship you seek to know what the other party likes and you never want to do anything to hurt them.
When John 3:16 resonates deep in your heart and you get to understand that he came just for you gave up everything for you, sacrificed all to reconcile you. It brings you to your knees imagining that when you never deserved any of it someone thought you deserved Him giving up his life. This is what purity should be a love story that you get to a place and say like Joseph in Genesis 39:9 “How can I do this great wickedness and sin against my God.”
1 Thessalonians 4:3 says For this is the will of God your sanctification that you should abstain from sexual immorality.
This is what God’s will is and truly I believe it’s not for our detriment buy our profit. Every time a sexual sin takes place it automatically comes with guilt, scares, and so much more baggage. In Mark 10:8 it says that man and wife become one and so does 1 Corinthians 6:16 says Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For "the two," He says, "shall become one flesh."
Can you imagine how many people you are one with? And its one emotionally, spiritually it comes as one whole package you choose nothing. Actually it’s more spiritual than you thought because it creates a soul ties. The person you have sex with you get to carry all their baggage be it anger, selfishness the whole thing. Sex to God is a covenant and that is why he made it to be in the confines of marriage. The same way you can’t use a cup in the place of a spoon and expect it to serve the purpose you want it to serve is the same way when it comes to sex. From Genesis we clearly know that God made sex. So we cannot now come and make it serve a purpose it was not meant for and expect there to be no consequences.
The truth being we were bought for a price and therefore we should glorify God in our bodies and in our spirits which are His. Because every sin a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Therefore let’s not uphold purity only as a command but also because without Christ we would never be where we are let’s surrender our lives for His glory. I am not saying it will be easy but as long as you are willing to uphold purity the rest allow God guide you.
I love the verse “so, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall.” 1 Corinthians 10:12. Because sometimes in our lives we get to a point and think that sexual purity is no longer a struggle to us. Sometimes the devil lies to us that we have to fight alone and we forget that God said come to me all that are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Sexual purity is not your fight alone God is there to help all the way even when you are just beginning the walk of purity. Forgetting sexual purity begins in the mind grave mistake and it’s true that when you get born again that the old has gone and indeed the new has come. But there things you need to be deliberate on from what you watch, the music you hear and what you allow yourself harbor in your heart because out of it flows the issues of life. Then Romans 12:1-2 becomes a verse you uphold and not just hear about. In this without God you will not be able to do it by yourself.